The family is
Of course abstinence education won't work if we, as a result our politically pre-conceived notions, don't want it to.the fundamental unit of society. When children are taught that sex is a recreational activity, the family unavoidably breaks down. When children are taught to simply follow their urges, society can hardly complain when (a) boys follow their urges even when girls don't want to, (b) sexual abuse is no longer recognized as such by either perpetrator or victim, and (c) legions of single-parent families are mired in poverty.
Of course it will fail if parents and other should-be role models teach their children to behave like dogs!!
David K. Shipler, in his book The Working Poor, noted that
A surprising number of women at the edge of poverty turn out to be survivors of sexual abuse. Like huge financial debt, their trauma weighs them down long after it occurs. ...it cannot be erased by declaring bankruptcy. Their future is crippled by their past.Even more surprisingly, Shipler mentions that in not one instance during his research for the book did he bring up the issue of sexual abuse with those he interviewed.
Even though I never posed the question, sooner or later, most of the impoverished women I interviewed mentioned that they had been sexually abused as children.Several studies
When a woman discloses such intimate humiliation to a stranger, she reveals its magnitude.
The Working Poor, pg. 143
What we can't prevent if we pander to our baser urges is a social destruction that no one should be surprised about-- poverty, parents who don't know how to raise children, and an increase in all forms of abuse.claim that abstinence education does not work. Well, of course it's not going to work if we, as a result our politically pre-conceived notions, don't want it to. Of course abstinence education is not going to work if a plethora of parents and other should-be role models teach their children to behave like dogs!! What these free-sex advocates can't prevent as a result of their pandering to their own urges, as well as to the urges of the upcoming generation, is a social destruction that no one should be surprised about--social destruction that includes poverty, parents who don't know how to raise children, and an increase in verbal, physical, and sexual abuse.
Get an abortion? That doesn't work either. The emotional scars faced by any woman who receives an abortion are no longer felt only because her survival mechanism finally kicks in. I don't suspect that there's a single young woman who thinks cavalierly about getting an abortion. How could she think happy thoughts at a time when her body is being invaded? With the advocacy of sex as a recreational pastime, though, what is being considered far to cavalierly is that meant-to-be-sacred act whose unintended result subsequently compels the sober contemplation of taking a life. If abstinence education doesn't work, it's mostly because of familial breakdown as a result of engagement in cavalier sex and because parents and other role models aren't doing their jobs--in many cases because they don't even know how to.
When we advocate sex as just another thing to do, we can't be surprised at stories like the following:
The ten-year-old girl sat on an idle swing, chatting with the caseworker on the swing beside her. "How many times," the little girl asked [the caseworker], "have you been raped?"Abstinence is not working? It's only because not enough people care about the results of not advocating its importance.
The question came casually, as if it could merely glide into the conversation. The caseworker, "Barbara", tried to stay composed.
"I said I hadn't, and she seemed surprised," Barbara recalled.
"'I thought everybody had been,'" she remembered the girl saying.
The Working Poor, pg. 142
It's about time we do start respecting the overwhelming power of misused sexuality to cause harm to society.
Abstinence education has to work.