Doctor Wallerstein and her colleagues
Despite what was hoped then, there is now little question that no-fault divorce was and is a social maelstrom, an evil genie whose lamp we can no longer even find. Knowing what you now know about this disastrous experiment, do you really want to attempt a similar one?studied the effects of divorce on children for a 25-year period--children who, by the end of the study, had advanced well into their adulthoods. These case studies indicate that, decades later, sons and daughters of divorce still have trouble building healthy and trusting relationships, and that their offspring are much more likely than the general population to follow the same destructive path.
Here are excerpts from Wallerstein's general discoveries regarding her "25-Year Landmark Study".
In July 1999, Sesame Street aired an episode in which...a little bird [told Kermit the frog] where she lived. She chirped that she lives part of the time in one tree where she frolics in her mother's nest, and the rest of her time in a separate tree where she frolics with her dad. This, of course restates the beguiling myth of divorce. The story may provide bland comfort to some worried children. But I suspect most know better. The story...in no way matches their experience of growing up in a divorced family...Despite what was hoped then, there is now little question that no-fault divorce was and is a social maelstrom, an evil genie whose lamp we can
The story...nevertheless...has deep roots in our contemporary culture. Up until thirty years ago marriage was a lifetime commitment... Then, in an upheaval akin to a cataclysmic earthquake, family law in California changed overnight. A series of statewide task forces recommended that men and women seeking divorce should no longer be required to prove that their spouse was unfaithful, unfit, cruel, or incompatible.
In 1969, Governor Ronald Reagan signed the new law and people were jubilant. It was a time of hope and faith that greater choice would set men and women free and benefit their children. Within a few years, no-fault divorce laws spread like wildfire to all fifty states. People all across the country were in favor of [the] change.
But what about the children? We made radical changes in the family without realizing how it would change the experience of growing up.
The first [faulty assumption] holds that if parents are happier, children will be happier, too...[that] the crisis will be transient because children are resilient... [During the making of these fateful choices] children are not considered separately from their parents; their needs and even their thoughts are subsumed under the adult agenda. ...most adults cannot fathom the child's world view and how children think. The problem is, they think they do.
The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25-Year Landmark Study, pp. xxi-xxiii
Enough with the mad science. Let's not put our children into a brand new petri dish.no longer even find. Knowing what you now know about this disastrous experiment, do you really want to attempt a similar one, called "homosexual marriage," which portends to be at least as disastrous?
As was the case with no-fault divorce, the major battleground for "homosexual marriage" is currently the state of California. Back then a state task force swayed the public balance; now a sharply divided State Supreme Court may have opened the floodgates of another madly scientific experiment. If "homosexual marriage" were to be legalized in California, would it also "spread like wildfire to all fifty states"? Do you really want to find out?
...the history of divorce in our society is replete with unwarranted assumptions that adults have made about children simply because such assumptions are congenial to adult needs and wishes. We embarked on a gigantic social experiment without any idea how the next generation would be affected.We now know.
During the making of these fateful choices, children are not considered separately from their parents; their needs and even their thoughts are subsumed under the adult agenda. ...most adults cannot fathom the child's world view and how children think. The problem is, they think they do.That generation has developed emotional scars, many of which never heal. That experiment was an abject failure.
Enough with the mad science. Let's not put our children into a brand new petri dish. If you value children, this time you'll support California Proposition 8 and stand firm against "homosexual marriage".